Life Is Better When Your Inner Child Is Happy :)

I was recommended this book, “The Wizdom Within” by Dr Irving Oyle, in a Facebook group I’m part of.  I was giving book suggestions on a thread about the Inner Child and another group member mentioned this book.  Unfortunately, it’s now out of print and I really don’t understand why because it’s full of practical wisdoIMG_1514m for transforming difficulties in life.  In fact, I love the ideas so much I’ve asked a few clients to let me practise with them so I can offer them to more people!

Just this evening, I tried them out with a client and it is the technique I’ve been looking for in my card readings!  Well, to tell you the truth, I accidentally stumbled on a similar technique with a client last year to great success but I didn’t know how to repeat the process.  And now this book has given me the answer.  I love getting my clients’ minds to tell them the answers they’re looking for.  I just know with every fibre of my being that each of us has a wealth of wisdom inside that could solve every conceivable problem we’ve ever had –  we just need certain techniques to draw it out.

And actually I don’t really like to call them “readings” because it sounds like all the advice will come from me.  And while I do step in with advice if I notice unhelpful thinking patterns, I love my work to empower clients and students and equip them with practical tools for making life better and better for themselves from within.

What I also love about this book is that it’s drawing together years of study and training in different fields.  I’m absolutely fascinated by the brain and the mind both from an educational/learning point of view and from a healing/personal growth point of view.  My Curious Inner Child loves it!

Oh and one more thing, here’s a link to an Inner Child Meditation I created earlier today to help you get in touch with your own Inner Child’s wisdom.  I hope you have fun with it!

Meet Your Inner Child Meditation


Wishing You A Merry Christmas

It’s Christmas Eve in the evening in Southern England as I write this.  My family in Australia and friends in Japan have already begun Christmas Day.  Well, they don’t really celebrate Christmas in Japan, but it’s still a time to bring loved ones to mind.

Life can be really tough and it can be really amazing.  Whatever kind of year 2015 has been for you, I hope that the wonderful moments shine through and that you have a love and laughter-filled Christmas.

With love

Jacqui xxx

Little Victories for Living Consciously

How much do you live consciously?  Are you aware of what thoughts, emotions and sensations become present as you experience life?  As you may well be aware, the more we can get conscious of our responses, the more control we have over them and the better we can make our lives.  When we see what’s going on, we can notice when things need changing or healing and take action to sort them out.  Likewise, it means we can notice little victories that show our consciousness is shifting for the better.  In this post, I’d like to share with you a little conscious victory I had.

As I posted about previously, I’ve been going deeply into my money story this year to improve my relationship with my finances.  In coaching and healing, you soon learn that nothing is as it seems. Our relationship with our finances is rarely just about money – it’s fascinating what else in our minds is tied up in our money story.

One of my hobbies that I’m just getting back into, is playing the bagpipes. I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with them and it dawned on me that there were crucial insights and lessons related to money and my business.

When I was in primary school (elementary school), I started playing the bagpipes. I’ve had a bit of a love/hate relationship with the bagpipes since that time.  It was all unconscious so I had no idea what emotions were going on.  The biggest problem for me was that I’ve also been a chronic people pleaser for most of my life and the bagpipes are very much an instrument that divides opinion.  Some people absolutely love them and some people absolutely hate them.  As a people pleaser, the latter used to be really hard for me, so I would minimise my impact as much as possible to avoid upsetting people.  It didn’t feel safe to have others’ disapproval even though I would get a lot of admiration too.

Now, how this links with my money story is that I used to earn quite a bit of money from playing the bagpipes in Southern England.  Bagpipers are rare in the South and people who want a bagpiper for a wedding or New Year’s Eve will pay quite a lot of money.  I also used to get days off school playing on the QE2 cruise ship before it set sail from Southampton and would get some money for doing that, too.

So, that was the background to the unconscious “stuff” going on.  Back to my little victory.  I offered to play the bagpipes at the special needs school I’m working at.  I took them in having done little practice (so knowing they wouldn’t sound as good as I can make them) and played in a music lesson.  Special needs kids don’t do people pleasing – they will give you the reaction straight!  Most of the young people in the class enjoyed or became interested in the bagpipes, but one balled her eyes out!  This was the victory.  For the first time, I really felt it was OK that she didn’t like it.  I didn’t feel guilty that I’d upset her like I would have done before.  It might seem like a small shift and an obvious point for many, but for me it’s the fruit of many years of hard work to change my responses to situations in empowering ways.

I think I just might go ahead and practise more so I can offer my services for weddings and New Year. 🙂

Are you a people-pleaser?  Have you had any consciousness shifting victories lately?  How have you managed to make the shifts?  I’d love to hear!

Inner Peace from Emotional Honesty

2 weeks ago I signed up to an online course in tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique or Meridian Psychotherapy) for financial success and personal fulfilment.  I’ve known about tapping for a couple of years but for some reason it’s really resonating with me now.  I’m feeling so much inner peace after I do the tapping exercises and I feel much calmer inside.  It’s also taught me that despite all the inner work I’ve done to raise my vibration, modern life really is stressful and we need to take time to have a daily stress detox.

If you’re not familiar with tapping, it’s basically a fusion of Eastern Medicine and Western Psychology.  You gently tap on certain acupuncture points on the body which represent each of the meridians where the “chi” or “ki” universal energy flows through.  Plus while tapping on these points, you say out loud the thoughts that are bothering you and express the emotions coming up underneath those thoughts.  Here’s a link to The Tapping Solution website where you can find out more.

I love how the tapping process encourages us to be honest about where we are and how we feel as we tap on those acupuncture points.  I’ve always found the truth to hold a lot of power.  Blocking the truth for any reason causes an enormous amount of internal stress and takes our energy systems out of harmony.  But expressing the truth, no matter how awful it may seem at first, allows energy to flow naturally – particularly when we are emotionally honest with ourselves.  Expressing our truth is incredibly healing and the great thing about using tapping as you express the truth is that the gentle tapping is sending calming signals to the brain as well as encouraging the “chi” or “ki” to flow through the body better.  Thoughts and emotions are also made of universal energy, so they need to be restored to natural flow too.  Once we get back to the natural flow, that seemingly awful truth loses its power and we can relax into life more.

Getting in touch with our emotions is a difficult process because as a society, we don’t know what to do with them.  They’re generally seen as “bad” or “good” and it’s a criticism to be “emotional”.  But at the same time many people have an awareness that Emotional Intelligence is a great skill to have.  Emotional Intelligence basically means being conscious of emotions and bringing them into awareness so that appropriate action can be taken.  I’m a highly emotional person and feel others’ emotions too, so for years I struggled with overwhelm from emotions and the energetic charges they hold.  Energy healing practices have helped a lot and so has journalling (where I write out my thoughts and feelings with complete honesty.)  But over time, I just kept getting overwhelmed by other’s “stuff” during the day.  Tapping doesn’t eliminate this – it’s part of modern life.  But it’s proving to be a powerful tool for letting go of that accumulated “stuff” quickly and effectively so I can get back to the real me.

And life is giving plenty of opportunities to see for myself how emotional honesty promotes better connections.  Privately and professionally, emotionally honest conversations have brought about a much deeper level of connection with others.  At the moment, I’m working in a special needs school a few days a week and am really seeing how giving emotions space to be expressed can help so much with connection, cooperation and give students more space for learning.  When our brains aren’t overwhelmed with trying to deal with emotions,  they can relax into learning, creativity and inspiration – much higher cognitive abilities.

Meditation, mindfulness, journalling, inner child work along with tapping are all ways that we can be more emotionally honest in productive, peace-producing ways.  I do wonder whether we could prevent so many tragedies in this world if we taught everyone how to manage and handle emotions in ways that promote connection, authenticity and harmony.

Theta Magic at The Sustainability Centre

Here are some pictures from our ThetaHealing Basic Practitioner training 24th-26th October 2015.  We gathered in a lovely yurt at the Sustainability Centre for 3 days of personal development and healing.

It was my first time teaching this particular course, so a small group was just right for me to get into the swing of it.  Each participant gave everything to the course and they were so impressed at what they could do for each other even by the end of day 1!  We learned how to change limiting beliefs, change the energy of DNA so it will infuse the physical DNA, remove other people’s soul fragments stuck in us as well as talking to guardian angels and learning how to use the ThetaHealing technique for manifesting and giving future readings.

I was so proud of everyone and we will all be gathering soon to practice more and share our insights.  It was great to watch each participant’s confidence grow over the 3 days.

I already have a lot of interest for the next course.  If you’d like to join us and see what’s possible for you, just join my mailing list or fill in the form below.  Also if you have any queries, don’t hesitate to contact me and I’ll do my best to help you.

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The Purest Love

Lessons in love can come from the most unexpected of places.  Today I was working at a Special Needs school and I had a moment with a severely disabled student that was so pure that just thinking about it fills me with love.

This particular student has a degenerative condition called Rett Syndrome that affects brain development.  I believe that at one time she could do more but her brain is unable to retain what she’s learned so she can do little for herself.  She’s extremely vulnerable and can’t communicate in conventional terms.  But as I often do with people, I tuned into her soul and wondered what her plan was for her life on Earth.  It might have been my imagination, but I felt a glimmer of recognition from her.  In that moment of just holding the space to make sure she was breathing, I felt so much love.  There is no way she can show love in any conventional sense, so the love has to be unconditional – giving without any expectation of receiving.  I got the impression from her soul that she was here to teach about unconditional love and to help us to learn more about the brain and genes so we can advance.

She certainly taught me about love and googling her condition has got me thinking more about the interplay of genes, brain development and consciousness.  Of course, today it was my job and I will receive some money for my time, but none of that really matters.  A moment so pure and so full of unconditional love is priceless.


International Peace Day – Here’s to Compassion, Empathy and Forgiveness

Today is UN International Peace Day.

I first heard about Peace Day at a inspiring talk by founder Jeremy Gilley in 2010. It’s such a simple idea – let’s have a day of international ceasefire and nonviolence.  As a healer and deep thinker, I’ve often wondered whether sustainable peace is truly possible. One day of peace is a huge step forward but for those of us living outside war zones, are we actually living in peace? And if not, what does living in peace actually look like?

Well, I don’t think we are truly living in peace yet, but I am optimistic that we can and we will achieve real peace.  I also strongly believe that healing modalities (and particularly ThetaHealing) have a vital role to play in creating true, sustainable peace.  Learning to truly listen to people and see underneath unloving behaviour to the pain and suffering causing it – these are important shifts humanity needs to create a truly peaceful world.

The story of Jo Berry and Pat Magee illustrates this beautifully.  A few years ago,  I went to a talk at Winchester University by Jo Berry and Pat Magee and it touched me deeply.  Jo Berry’s father was killed in the IRA Brighton bombing and Pat Magee was the bomber.  They now work together to teach people how to heal deep-seated problems through dialogue.

While Pat Magee admits that violence is unacceptable and regrets his action, he has useful insights on what led him to do such an awful thing.  He raises the important point that people who feel they have no voice are prone to resorting to any means possible to be heard.  And Jo Berry is an incredible example of the power of listening for the roots of violence.  This quote by former hostage Terry Waite from their website sums up the power of the work they do and the power of empathy and seeing each others’ humanity:

To be a subject of a grievous wrong is always wounding and painful and can frequently provoke anger.

However, anger, if allowed to fester is like a cancer of the soul. It does more harm to those who hold it than against those whom it is held.

Jo Berry knows from personal experience what it is to have to face deep suffering as her father was blown up in a IRA bomb. She has let go of personal need for revenge and empathised with Patrick Magee, the man responsible for planting the bomb.

To hear her speak alongside the one who killed her father is a living demonstration of the transforming power of reconciliation when two people who have been on different sides truly listen and can see each other’s humanity, an example this sad world so desperately need.
Terry Waite CBE – humanitarian and former hostage

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But it’s not just outward violence that we need to tackle.  Too many feel unseen and insignificant and direct their anger inwards.  People who work with young people are all too aware of how much more common self harm and depression have become in recent years.

For many years, I made it my goal to cultivate compassion and understanding for those suffering.  I’m extremely grateful to have gained deep insights into this through my work with troubled young people.  Some had long criminal records, some had difficulty attending college and keeping up with their work, some would blurt out really awful words, but often when you looked a bit deeper and knew their backgrounds, it was understandable why they were so desperate to be seen.

Collectively, we are facing many problems but I am optimistic about our chances.  Healing modalities are becoming more and more widely accepted and practiced and of course, the work of people such as Jo Berry and Pat Magee show us that compassion, empathy and forgiveness can cause great shifts.

It’s not easy to look below the surface and look for the underlying causes, but more and more people are understanding the need to be conscious of what’s driving our behaviour and to look beyond appearances to the inner conflicts that can skew behaviour.

So I hope Peace Day 2015 has been a day of peace for you and I hope that you have plenty of people in your life who really see you ♡


Hypnotherapy – Dispelling the top 10 myths

Hypnotherapy is a wonderful modality for helping to create positive, permanent change.  I’ve had it myself and it really helped me to leave the past behind and focus on creating a much, much better future.  But while hypnotherapy could help many more people, so many are stuck in fear of it.  In this guest post, the fabulous Tina from Hypnotherapy1 for Health and Happiness helps explain the truth of hypnotherapy and busts the most common myths about it.


Myth #1 The hypnotherapist will be able to control my mind

Fact: No-one can control your mind. Your hypnotherapist will be the catalyst to the changes you wish to make. You will be given suggestions only based on the pre-hypnotic discussion and agreement. At no point during your session will you lose control of your mind. If you hear a suggestion that you don’t agree with, or don’t understand, your subconscious mind will automatically reject it.


Myth #2 I will be made to perform embarrassing acts, such as bark like a dog, or walk like a duck

Fact: This assumption is based on stage hypnotism and Hollywood fiction. The truth is, these people volunteer to act on stage, and they allow themselves to participate in silly suggestions. Hypnotherapy is a serious process of self-improvement, not entertainment.


Myth#3 Hypnosis comes from “Black Magic” or is “Supernatural”

Fact: Hypnosis is a natural state that has been studied scientifically. Hypnotherapists are not psychics or palm readers with “special powers”. Hypnotherapy is based on many years of clinical research by famous psychologists such as Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung, and more recently, by Milton Erikson, John Kappas and Richard Bandler.


Myth #4 If I become hypnotized, I may not be able to snap out of it, or hypnotherapy is dangerous

Fact: Hypnotherapy is very safe, and is in fact a state of hyper-awareness or higher-awareness. Any time there is an emergency, a person would naturally be able to come out of the hypnotic state very simply by opening their eyes and stretching or speaking.


Myth #5 I have never been in hypnosis before – what it if doesn’t work?

Fact: Every person naturally enters a state of hypnosis at least twice every day: just before falling asleep at night, and upon awakening every morning, before getting out of bed. Most people easily enter ‘Environmental Hypnosis’ while at the movies, watching television, driving on the motorway or while reading a good book.


Myth #6 Hypnosis is a “Miracle Cure”

Fact: While hypnotherapy is a highly-effective, relatively quick method of making permanent improvements to one’s life, there is no such thing as a one-time “Hypno-Miracle”! Every individual makes progress at his or her own rate. In my experience, each session will take 2-3 days to process in the mind.


Myth #7 Hypnosis is a great tool to get someone to “confess”

Fact: Hypnotherapy sessions are kept completely private and confidential and cannot be used for court evidence/testimony. It is not an alternative to lie detector tests. Hypnotherapy cannot force anyone to “tell the truth” or to confess.


Myth #8 When hypnotized, I will lose all sense of my surroundings, and will have no memory of the session

Fact: Hypnotherapy is not an unconscious state of sleep. In fact, most people report having a heightened sense of awareness, concentration and focus, and can even hear more acutely during a session.


Myth #9 Self-hypnosis is safer, better or more effective than going to a trained professional

Fact: Self-hypnosis can be detrimental when not taught by a trained professional, as a negative attitude or belief about oneself will be reinforced regardless of suggestions given. This can cause more stress and problems in the long run. Hypnotherapy directly accesses the subconscious mind, while self-hypnosis cannot.


Myth #10 I can’t be hypnotized because my mind is too strong/disciplined

Fact: This is an archaic belief that has, in recent times, been proven untrue. It was thought, long ago, that only 50% of the population could be hypnotized. Over the last 40 years, hypnotherapeutic specialists have developed methods to induce hypnosis in 100% of the population. During your first session, we utilize these methods to determine what type of suggestibility you have, and hence, how to hypnotize you.


It is your decision to use hypnotherapy for self-improvement. I will do my best to serve you in the most efficient and enjoyable way possible.


Tina Heath

Hypnotherapy1 for Health and Happiness


What’s the Truth of Who You Are?

Last Sunday, I went to “Shift Speaker Training” with Dr Joanna Martin. I’d never heard of her so I had no idea what to expect, but actually I thought she was fantastic. She oozed passion, authenticity and energy.

I left feeling calm and optimistic about my business’s future. I even felt more confident about selling (which is something I need to do a lot of work on!!)

She got us to think about one quality or value that is the essence of who we are. What would we wish for everyone in the world?  I went through a few options and decided on peace.  We then had to go around the room and introduce ourselves as that quality.  It was beautiful to hear other people’s truths – love, value, confidence, service and many more introduced themselves to me.  There was such a gentle, authentic energy flowing during this activity and I think all of us were able to connect heart-to-heart.

Later that day, I reflected more on peace and it didn’t feel 100% me.  It’s definitely something I strive for and it inspires me, but it’s not the depth of who I am.  I realised that truth was the quality that I naturally am.  A lot of people don’t want to know truth – it can be a vulnerable place to go.  But for those brave enough to embrace it, profound healing can come.

The Soul loves the Truth – Denise Linn

What do you feel the key value driving your life is?  Peace? Love? Truth? Something else?

Why not have a go at saying “I am (your value)” out loud and see how it feels?  I would love to hear how you get on!  Either email me at or you could write a comment below.


Rest In Peace Dr Wayne Dyer

I’ve been diving into Dr Dyer’s wisdom since his transition at the end of August.  My newsfeed on Facebook was full of his wisdom – beautiful, inspiring quotes and a film of him sharing his wisdom with others (The Shift).

I decided to watch The Shift and what struck me while watching it was just how peaceful and understanding he was.  He understood life’s pressures but also understood and lived greater truths.

It’s my belief that the timing of his passing was no accident.  As many involved in energy healing know, September 2015 is said to be a month of incoming cosmic energies that will enable us to shift our energy to higher states.  And as many energy healers will tell you, these times can be rocky to say the least.  As we shift to higher vibrational states, we need to release the lower states so we can sustain the higher state.  It can cause all kinds of problems – physical symptoms, emotional ups and downs, convulsions, insomnia – the list goes on.  But when we surrender to it, stop fighting and allow the energies to flow through, we can arrive at a greater way of being.  It is like our energy system has been cleaned up and cleared out.

So why is his passing so significant?  Because he is a reminder that the physical world is actually energy and that the more we embrace higher spiritual energies, the more we are allowing love to flow through the whole of our lives.  It also reminds us that all of the physical symptoms and emotional problems are actually problems of the ego (“Edging God Out” to put it in his terms).  The clear-out allows us to release our ego’s grip on our lives and surrender to a greater, more soul-centred way of being.

On top of that, some fascinating insights have come through.  First, Dr Dyer had been diagnosed with leukaemia but he was healed during a healing session with the renowned Brazilian healer, John of God.  Post mortem tests apparently confirmed that he had no trace of leukaemia in his body! Second, according to Reid Tracy, CEO of Hay House, the date he died was personally significant to him.  He had never met his father and it was on August 30th that he visited his father’s grave and then wrote his book “Your Erroneous Zones” in 14 days, which was a book that changed his life.

If I’m honest, I hadn’t explored his work that much while he was alive, but boy is his work resonating with me now!  And his teachings are adding an extra layer of meaning to my own life and to my healing sessions with clients.

You can watch Dr Dyer’s film “My Greatest Teacher” for free until September 14th via Hay House.