International Peace Day – Here’s to Compassion, Empathy and Forgiveness

Today is UN International Peace Day.

I first heard about Peace Day at a inspiring talk by founder Jeremy Gilley in 2010. It’s such a simple idea – let’s have a day of international ceasefire and nonviolence.  As a healer and deep thinker, I’ve often wondered whether sustainable peace is truly possible. One day of peace is a huge step forward but for those of us living outside war zones, are we actually living in peace? And if not, what does living in peace actually look like?

Well, I don’t think we are truly living in peace yet, but I am optimistic that we can and we will achieve real peace.  I also strongly believe that healing modalities (and particularly ThetaHealing) have a vital role to play in creating true, sustainable peace.  Learning to truly listen to people and see underneath unloving behaviour to the pain and suffering causing it – these are important shifts humanity needs to create a truly peaceful world.

The story of Jo Berry and Pat Magee illustrates this beautifully.  A few years ago,  I went to a talk at Winchester University by Jo Berry and Pat Magee and it touched me deeply.  Jo Berry’s father was killed in the IRA Brighton bombing and Pat Magee was the bomber.  They now work together to teach people how to heal deep-seated problems through dialogue.

While Pat Magee admits that violence is unacceptable and regrets his action, he has useful insights on what led him to do such an awful thing.  He raises the important point that people who feel they have no voice are prone to resorting to any means possible to be heard.  And Jo Berry is an incredible example of the power of listening for the roots of violence.  This quote by former hostage Terry Waite from their website sums up the power of the work they do and the power of empathy and seeing each others’ humanity:

To be a subject of a grievous wrong is always wounding and painful and can frequently provoke anger.

However, anger, if allowed to fester is like a cancer of the soul. It does more harm to those who hold it than against those whom it is held.

Jo Berry knows from personal experience what it is to have to face deep suffering as her father was blown up in a IRA bomb. She has let go of personal need for revenge and empathised with Patrick Magee, the man responsible for planting the bomb.

To hear her speak alongside the one who killed her father is a living demonstration of the transforming power of reconciliation when two people who have been on different sides truly listen and can see each other’s humanity, an example this sad world so desperately need.
Terry Waite CBE – humanitarian and former hostage

Their website is available here: http://www.buildingbridgesforpeace.org

But it’s not just outward violence that we need to tackle.  Too many feel unseen and insignificant and direct their anger inwards.  People who work with young people are all too aware of how much more common self harm and depression have become in recent years.

For many years, I made it my goal to cultivate compassion and understanding for those suffering.  I’m extremely grateful to have gained deep insights into this through my work with troubled young people.  Some had long criminal records, some had difficulty attending college and keeping up with their work, some would blurt out really awful words, but often when you looked a bit deeper and knew their backgrounds, it was understandable why they were so desperate to be seen.

Collectively, we are facing many problems but I am optimistic about our chances.  Healing modalities are becoming more and more widely accepted and practiced and of course, the work of people such as Jo Berry and Pat Magee show us that compassion, empathy and forgiveness can cause great shifts.

It’s not easy to look below the surface and look for the underlying causes, but more and more people are understanding the need to be conscious of what’s driving our behaviour and to look beyond appearances to the inner conflicts that can skew behaviour.

So I hope Peace Day 2015 has been a day of peace for you and I hope that you have plenty of people in your life who really see you ♡

 

Hypnotherapy – Dispelling the top 10 myths

Hypnotherapy is a wonderful modality for helping to create positive, permanent change.  I’ve had it myself and it really helped me to leave the past behind and focus on creating a much, much better future.  But while hypnotherapy could help many more people, so many are stuck in fear of it.  In this guest post, the fabulous Tina from Hypnotherapy1 for Health and Happiness helps explain the truth of hypnotherapy and busts the most common myths about it.

 

Myth #1 The hypnotherapist will be able to control my mind

Fact: No-one can control your mind. Your hypnotherapist will be the catalyst to the changes you wish to make. You will be given suggestions only based on the pre-hypnotic discussion and agreement. At no point during your session will you lose control of your mind. If you hear a suggestion that you don’t agree with, or don’t understand, your subconscious mind will automatically reject it.

 

Myth #2 I will be made to perform embarrassing acts, such as bark like a dog, or walk like a duck

Fact: This assumption is based on stage hypnotism and Hollywood fiction. The truth is, these people volunteer to act on stage, and they allow themselves to participate in silly suggestions. Hypnotherapy is a serious process of self-improvement, not entertainment.

 

Myth#3 Hypnosis comes from “Black Magic” or is “Supernatural”

Fact: Hypnosis is a natural state that has been studied scientifically. Hypnotherapists are not psychics or palm readers with “special powers”. Hypnotherapy is based on many years of clinical research by famous psychologists such as Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung, and more recently, by Milton Erikson, John Kappas and Richard Bandler.

 

Myth #4 If I become hypnotized, I may not be able to snap out of it, or hypnotherapy is dangerous

Fact: Hypnotherapy is very safe, and is in fact a state of hyper-awareness or higher-awareness. Any time there is an emergency, a person would naturally be able to come out of the hypnotic state very simply by opening their eyes and stretching or speaking.

 

Myth #5 I have never been in hypnosis before – what it if doesn’t work?

Fact: Every person naturally enters a state of hypnosis at least twice every day: just before falling asleep at night, and upon awakening every morning, before getting out of bed. Most people easily enter ‘Environmental Hypnosis’ while at the movies, watching television, driving on the motorway or while reading a good book.

 

Myth #6 Hypnosis is a “Miracle Cure”

Fact: While hypnotherapy is a highly-effective, relatively quick method of making permanent improvements to one’s life, there is no such thing as a one-time “Hypno-Miracle”! Every individual makes progress at his or her own rate. In my experience, each session will take 2-3 days to process in the mind.

 

Myth #7 Hypnosis is a great tool to get someone to “confess”

Fact: Hypnotherapy sessions are kept completely private and confidential and cannot be used for court evidence/testimony. It is not an alternative to lie detector tests. Hypnotherapy cannot force anyone to “tell the truth” or to confess.

 

Myth #8 When hypnotized, I will lose all sense of my surroundings, and will have no memory of the session

Fact: Hypnotherapy is not an unconscious state of sleep. In fact, most people report having a heightened sense of awareness, concentration and focus, and can even hear more acutely during a session.

 

Myth #9 Self-hypnosis is safer, better or more effective than going to a trained professional

Fact: Self-hypnosis can be detrimental when not taught by a trained professional, as a negative attitude or belief about oneself will be reinforced regardless of suggestions given. This can cause more stress and problems in the long run. Hypnotherapy directly accesses the subconscious mind, while self-hypnosis cannot.

 

Myth #10 I can’t be hypnotized because my mind is too strong/disciplined

Fact: This is an archaic belief that has, in recent times, been proven untrue. It was thought, long ago, that only 50% of the population could be hypnotized. Over the last 40 years, hypnotherapeutic specialists have developed methods to induce hypnosis in 100% of the population. During your first session, we utilize these methods to determine what type of suggestibility you have, and hence, how to hypnotize you.

 

It is your decision to use hypnotherapy for self-improvement. I will do my best to serve you in the most efficient and enjoyable way possible.

 

Tina Heath

Hypnotherapy1 for Health and Happiness

www.hypnotherapy1.com

 

What’s the Truth of Who You Are?

Last Sunday, I went to “Shift Speaker Training” with Dr Joanna Martin. I’d never heard of her so I had no idea what to expect, but actually I thought she was fantastic. She oozed passion, authenticity and energy.

I left feeling calm and optimistic about my business’s future. I even felt more confident about selling (which is something I need to do a lot of work on!!)

She got us to think about one quality or value that is the essence of who we are. What would we wish for everyone in the world?  I went through a few options and decided on peace.  We then had to go around the room and introduce ourselves as that quality.  It was beautiful to hear other people’s truths – love, value, confidence, service and many more introduced themselves to me.  There was such a gentle, authentic energy flowing during this activity and I think all of us were able to connect heart-to-heart.

Later that day, I reflected more on peace and it didn’t feel 100% me.  It’s definitely something I strive for and it inspires me, but it’s not the depth of who I am.  I realised that truth was the quality that I naturally am.  A lot of people don’t want to know truth – it can be a vulnerable place to go.  But for those brave enough to embrace it, profound healing can come.

The Soul loves the Truth – Denise Linn

What do you feel the key value driving your life is?  Peace? Love? Truth? Something else?

Why not have a go at saying “I am (your value)” out loud and see how it feels?  I would love to hear how you get on!  Either email me at jacquimcginn@icloud.com or you could write a comment below.

 

Rest In Peace Dr Wayne Dyer

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I’ve been diving into Dr Dyer’s wisdom since his transition at the end of August.  My newsfeed on Facebook was full of his wisdom – beautiful, inspiring quotes and a film of him sharing his wisdom with others (The Shift).

I decided to watch The Shift and what struck me while watching it was just how peaceful and understanding he was.  He understood life’s pressures but also understood and lived greater truths.

It’s my belief that the timing of his passing was no accident.  As many involved in energy healing know, September 2015 is said to be a month of incoming cosmic energies that will enable us to shift our energy to higher states.  And as many energy healers will tell you, these times can be rocky to say the least.  As we shift to higher vibrational states, we need to release the lower states so we can sustain the higher state.  It can cause all kinds of problems – physical symptoms, emotional ups and downs, convulsions, insomnia – the list goes on.  But when we surrender to it, stop fighting and allow the energies to flow through, we can arrive at a greater way of being.  It is like our energy system has been cleaned up and cleared out.

So why is his passing so significant?  Because he is a reminder that the physical world is actually energy and that the more we embrace higher spiritual energies, the more we are allowing love to flow through the whole of our lives.  It also reminds us that all of the physical symptoms and emotional problems are actually problems of the ego (“Edging God Out” to put it in his terms).  The clear-out allows us to release our ego’s grip on our lives and surrender to a greater, more soul-centred way of being.

On top of that, some fascinating insights have come through.  First, Dr Dyer had been diagnosed with leukaemia but he was healed during a healing session with the renowned Brazilian healer, John of God.  Post mortem tests apparently confirmed that he had no trace of leukaemia in his body! Second, according to Reid Tracy, CEO of Hay House, the date he died was personally significant to him.  He had never met his father and it was on August 30th that he visited his father’s grave and then wrote his book “Your Erroneous Zones” in 14 days, which was a book that changed his life.

If I’m honest, I hadn’t explored his work that much while he was alive, but boy is his work resonating with me now!  And his teachings are adding an extra layer of meaning to my own life and to my healing sessions with clients.

You can watch Dr Dyer’s film “My Greatest Teacher” for free until September 14th via Hay House. http://links.hayhouse.mkt5657.com/servlet/MailView?ms=NDk0NzA0NTYS1&r=NTY5ODA0MzU0NDkS1&j=NzYwNDY2ODk3S0&mt=1&rt=0

 

The Soulful Wisdom of Marianne Williamson

“We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present.”
― Marianne Williamson

I was googling Marianne Williamson quotes to share with a client and I found a page of wonderful quotes by her.  There are so many soul-reaching quotes from her that it was difficult to choose just one to go here.  I couldn’t find the actual one I was looking for (it was a quote about people either reaching out for love or expressing love in their actions) but there was so much inspiring wisdom in the quotes I did find, that I didn’t need that one.

Here is the page of quotes if you fancy a bit more of her inspiration: https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/17297.Marianne_Williamson

 

 

The Power of Thoughts and Emotions

http://medicalxpress.com/news/2015-08-maltreated-children-brains-ability-emotions.html

The more I study the brain and the mind, the more I realise how powerful thoughts and emotions are. This article is a lovely example of how re-training and redirecting our thoughts can make positive changes to how we process life.  As this article shows, the brain can be rewired to cope better with emotions and work with them regardless of previous experiences.  I think this article is a ray of hope that we can help people overcome anything if we can help them control their thoughts.

At the moment, I’m reading “The Trauma of Everyday Life” which is written by a psychiatrist discussing Buddhist ideas and how they can be integrated to help patients.  Just last night I was struck by the following Buddhist quote in the book:

The mind is restless

To control it is good

A disciplined mind is the road to Nirvana

I find it fascinating that scientific research like the article above and Buddhist philosophy are finding common ground – controlling the mind can help us grow, evolve and move beyond problems.

Gaining control of our own mind is no easy task, because most of what it contains is unconscious.  But tools that can get the conscious and unconscious minds working together like ThetaHealing, NeuroLinguistic Programming and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy are wonderful ways to begin.

It’s my belief that we really can transform the world by the transforming our inner worlds.  And now, more than ever before we have greater access to the tools to do so.

Debt Blizting!!!!

As some of you may know, I’ve joined Financial Freedom University which was created by The Wealth Chef, Ann Wilson. It has really changed my relationship with money and taught me so much about how our stuck emotions can influence our money story.

So today I was shopping and found a really funky dress in a major department store chain. Lately I’ve been disciplined with my money and only buying things if I would pay cash for them. Credit cards have a nasty habit of making us spend much more than we would otherwise – all those attractive little extras like points and airmiles plus the fact it doesn’t feel like you’re spending money at all! I loved this dress so much and the sale price was so good that I decided I’d be happy to pay cash for it.

But at the till, I was told about some attractive offers if I signed up to get the store credit card. I’m only used to being asked to join loyalty schemes which are pretty harmless and I figured that as I wouldn’t use this card much at all, it would be OK to apply and take advantage of the offers.

BIG MISTAKE! For whatever reason, after half an hour of messing about, I was declined and left with a black mark on my credit record. I was annoyed with myself for not sticking to my original plan to pay with “real” money and I was really annoyed with the store for trying to push a credit card with an appalling interest rate on customers and profit from more debt creation. I learned my lesson big time and will never again apply for a credit card on the spur of the moment.

Of course I wouldn’t be as annoyed if it all went through. But it points to a larger problem. There are big profits to be made from debt and many people’s ignorance in financial matters. I was certainly completely ignorant and buried my head in the sand about finances. Starting my own business forced me to learn about money and getting myself into debt while setting it up, forced me to make big changes to how I use money.

For me, I have turned the anger from this mistake into rocket fuel for my debt blitzing and I am more determined than ever to be debt free ASAP and to be financially free within 10 years.

I’ve done the inner work, now it’s time for the outer action!