Trust Your Inner Nudges, Make Peace With Your Emotions

I was lucky enough to get to go to Glastonbury Festival this year.  I thought it was impossible because I don’t have the money to go at the moment and taking time off work would mean a drop in income too – eek!  But the opportunity arose to help out on a stall for a free ticket and I felt an inner nudge to say “yes” and take the risk.

And it totally paid off.  I had been getting more and more overwhelmed by everyday stresses around me and was losing my connection to spirit and to myself.  I wasn’t meditating enough or looking after my energy enough and it made my emotions go up and down all over the place.

Coldplay

I knew intuitively that Coldplay’s performance would be extra special for me and would contain some kind of synchronistic message.  Sure enough, their sacred geometry symbolism and heart-centred songs lifted me out of the stuckness and injected me with enough high energy to connect back with my true self.  And during the performance, “The Guest House” by Rumi was read out, which I posted about here a short while ago.  I knew it was telling me to focus my work on emotions now. Helping people to heal old, stuck emotions dragging them down and to create better, healthier relationships with emotions so that everyone could experience the bliss and joy that I was experiencing during the concert.  My new style of session that I’m practising now is more focused on releasing these old emotions to help clients bring more energy to the present.  So the performance was the much needed “me-time” that my body and soul had been crying out for and a beautiful affirmation of what’s waiting on the other side of all those stuck emotions.

Peace Dome

Glastonbury Peace Dome
Glastonbury Peace Dome

The Peace Dome up by the Stone Circle was the 2nd most healing place for me.  Unable to sleep at night with all the all-night partying going on around, I took myself off to meditate here.  The flame inside the peace dome is one originally lit from the fires after the Hiroshima bombing.  Japan is close to my heart because I lived there for over 9 years and built up and amazing life with amazing friends and coworkers.  I lived in Yokohama but I visited Hiroshima with my best friend and we fell in love with it.  To me, it is the wisest place on Earth in terms of peace.  Humanity’s worst creative expression was unleashed and the atmosphere of the place is one of reverence for life.  It’s a living appeal to end the use of atomic weapons because the consequences have been so painfully experienced and deeply felt.  Unimaginable suffering is caused to all who survive.  And whatever we do to anyone else, we do to ourselves.

And yet, underneath all of our “rational” international policies are centuries of unresolved hurt and failures to forgive and leave the past in the past.  Each of us creates the world we live in with the vibrations we create through our thoughts and emotions, it’s not just politicians and it’s not really fair to blame them alone.  Peace can only be a practical possibility when each of us takes responsibility for the thoughts and feelings that make up our particular vibration and choose to live the conscious journey of transmuting them to live more and more connected lives.  We are more well equipped than ever before with insights, healing modalities, scientific studies and ways to connect en masse.  Once we reach a critical mass of people committed to releasing the past and daring to create better futures, the positive changes will ripple out and inspire the rest to find out where all the health, abundance and happiness is coming from and how they can access it too.

The Peace Dome is a sacred space that invites connection and reflection and to light candles in the dark.  It helped me process and release all the pent-up emotions and brought me back to my authentic self on the other side.  The part of me that truly knows we’re all connected and we’re all sparks of one divine source.

But I believe we mustn’t jump to that place without honouring the past – fully receiving its lessons and allowing the appropriate emotions to flow.  Without this conscious process, we’re by-passing the learning and just ignoring a vital, life-affirming part of ourselves.  And life is so much richer when we embrace the whole of this being human.

🎶 saying it’s true, it’s not what it seems
leave your broken windows open
and in the light just streams
and you get a head, a head full of dreams
you can see the change you wanted
be what you want to be 🎶

  • Coldplay, “A Head Full of Dreams”

 

Freedom and the Inner Child

Last night I gave a talk and mini-workshop on Connecting with the Inner Child at Horndean Positive Living Group.

Connecting with your Inner Child is vital to creating your own version of heaven on Earth.  The Inner Child is the bridge between the ego (our false, small self) and the soul (our true, expansive self).  The Inner Child carries all the qualities that can help bring humanity forward –

  • curiosity
  • wonder
  • emotional expression
  • creativity
  • non-judgment
  • spontaneity
  • being immersed in the moment
  • imagination
  • vision
  • joy
  • vitality

In fact, these are qualities that spiritual development involves.  For example, from a spiritual development perspective, the art of manifesting encourages us to use all of these to turn our highest visions into reality.  We need imagination and vision to aim higher.  We need creativity to make it happen and be adaptable.  We need non-judgment, spontaneity, vitality and joy and to be immersed in the moment in order to detach from the outcome to let universal energies do their job.

But for so many of us, childhood was a time of restricting and shutting down all of these qualities.  It was a survival mechanism to adapt to the environment we were brought up in.  And because our unconscious minds were wide open, all of the learning and adaptation went deep, deep into our psyches.   It no wonder we have expressions like “a leopard can’t change its spots” and we create beliefs that “people don’t change” because the learning is so deeply ingrained that it can seem impossible to change.

However, deep and lasting change IS possible.  Everyone can recover all of these child-like qualities and live their own version of heaven.  But it isn’t an overnight process and it does require commitment to change.  Through deep healing practices like ThetaHealing we can change the deep seated learning and rewire the brain.  In my experience we also then need to process the old emotions that got repressed and blocked to release their energy and restore  our natural, healthy emotional flow.

And once we’ve done that, there is a freedom that comes.  We’re free from the burdens of the past.  We’re free to be joyful, spontaneous and vibrant.  We’re free to live life on our own terms.  We’re free to have fun.  We’re free to live the highest expression of our souls.  We’re free of judgment and restriction.  We’re free to thrive.

That kind of freedom is an expression of love. 

If you’d like to begin or continue your journey of connecting with your Inner Child, I’ll be running workshops in Eastleigh, Hampshire, UK.  The first one  is on 20th March, 2016.  Details are on my events page.

Fact or Influence? The Importance of

This morning I heard that today is supposed to be the most depressing day of the year.  It’s 2 weeks into the new year and around this time people get their credit card statements from Christmas and that’s what contributes to the general low feeling, apparently.  Then I heard it again on the radio this evening.

My own feelings have taken a tumble this evening and I’ve just knocked over a cup of peppermint tea.  It’s got me wondering – has the idea of it being the worst day of the year influenced my mood?  Has my unconscious mind gone “oh, right – most depressing day of the year – let’s make that happen”?  Or is it a fact?  Is it something that is true and my mind is just processing fact?

I don’t know.  But the idea of our unconscious minds being influenced is an interesting one to ponder and I think it’s a very important one.

I find the unconscious mind fascinating but I also find the influence others can have on our minds equally fascinating – and a little scary.  I’ve come across a few examples where minds have been influenced for negative reasons.  First, I’ve been reading Paul McKenna’s “I Can Make You Rich” and it’s been showing me just how much advertisers manipulate our unconscious minds to get us to buy things.  Second, after work today I saw today’s Sun newspaper front page trying to make Labour Leader Jeremy Corbyn look farcical in his attempts to reduce nuclear weapons and wondered how many people’s opinions of him have been manipulated by such strong opinion pieces.  Then finally tonight I was watching the “Making of a Murderer” series on Netflix and I watched the police unfairly influence a young, impressionable person’s mind and have him do what they wanted (I won’t give the details in case you want to watch the series).

How much control do we have of our own unconscious minds?  Because it’s unconscious, we can never really know.  But doing our best to notice when others are trying to influence our thoughts, feelings and actions is crucial to our personal fulfilment, happiness and spiritual growth.

How can we make sure we get as much control of our own unconscious minds as possible?  Well, I think that (perhaps counter-intuitively) it’s about reconnecting with our Inner Child.  I believe our Inner Child is the gateway to our authentic selves – our souls.  This is because it was largely in childhood that our minds were shaped by outside influences and cut us off from our authentic selves.  Spiritual teachings call this the creation of the ego.  But underneath all of that ego conditioning, our authentic selves (our souls) are still there waiting for us.  Our task is to connect with that greater part of ourselves as much as possible and release anything that blocks our connection to it.  As long as we stand firm in our truest selves, we are less likely to let others negatively influence our thoughts, feelings and actions.  Connecting with our Inner Child can be the bridge between the ego and the soul and can help us invite more of our soul into our everyday lives.

Imagine the future world we’d create together if more and more of us stood firm in our truest selves.  Free from influence by outside factors.  Free to make love the bottom line in all our decisions.

Magical Deadlines and Manifesting

It’s funny how until I understood that my goals need to be in alignment with my values, I would always rebel against my own goals. If they didn’t have meaning, I wasn’t interested. When I worked as a sixth form college teacher, I had to create SMART goals with my students – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-Bound goals. I always got the reason why they were supposed to be created in this way, but never quite mastered the art of making goals that really worked and always got stuck on the “time-bound” part.  For my own business goals too, the time-bound part always seemed arbitrary and I rarely achieved them by the time I set – until now! And the secret was that I let go and listened to my intuition.

Last summer, I bought a daily deal site voucher for a one-day video for business course at Pinewood Studios. I just thought it would be fun and didn’t think much of it. Then when I got more information through, I realised I had to write 2 scripts to promote my business. To be honest, I’ve really struggled to explain what I do and you might have noticed my homepage has changed wording frequently as I struggled to find the core of what I’m about and how I help people. So I knew that I needed to put off doing the video course until I had a clearer explanation of what I do. Around December I had the feeling that I was on the verge of discovering what it was that draws everything together. I booked the course for January with a knowing that I would have a much clearer idea by then.

Sure enough at the beginning of January, thanks to synchronistic events (the right books, the right experiences) I found the crux of what I do and what I want to do – teach more people about the unconscious mind. I truly believe that if more people understood how to harness the unconscious mind instead of being its slave, we would live in a different world. We’d draw out solutions to every problem we’re facing – rampant consumerism, inequality, poor distribution of wealth, environmental problems, disease prevention and treatment, and so on. Plus we’d see increased levels of peace, happiness and acceptance as people retrained their minds for greater and greater self esteem and love.

So that magical deadline of January 13th helped get my unconscious mind focused on how to get me ready for my video course and brought the right books and experiences into my life to give me the clarity I needed. I’ve just written and sent off my scripts to be loaded up on the autocue and then on Wednesday, it’s playtime! I’m super excited like a kid waiting to go to Disneyland for the first time!

I don’t think I ever will try to force SMART goals on myself ever again. This whole experience reaffirmed that there is a great wisdom in life and it will speak to us through our intuition and synchronicities – aspects of the unconscious mind. We just have to be ready to receive the guidance consciously as it comes.

Little Victories for Living Consciously

How much do you live consciously?  Are you aware of what thoughts, emotions and sensations become present as you experience life?  As you may well be aware, the more we can get conscious of our responses, the more control we have over them and the better we can make our lives.  When we see what’s going on, we can notice when things need changing or healing and take action to sort them out.  Likewise, it means we can notice little victories that show our consciousness is shifting for the better.  In this post, I’d like to share with you a little conscious victory I had.

As I posted about previously, I’ve been going deeply into my money story this year to improve my relationship with my finances.  In coaching and healing, you soon learn that nothing is as it seems. Our relationship with our finances is rarely just about money – it’s fascinating what else in our minds is tied up in our money story.

One of my hobbies that I’m just getting back into, is playing the bagpipes. I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with them and it dawned on me that there were crucial insights and lessons related to money and my business.

When I was in primary school (elementary school), I started playing the bagpipes. I’ve had a bit of a love/hate relationship with the bagpipes since that time.  It was all unconscious so I had no idea what emotions were going on.  The biggest problem for me was that I’ve also been a chronic people pleaser for most of my life and the bagpipes are very much an instrument that divides opinion.  Some people absolutely love them and some people absolutely hate them.  As a people pleaser, the latter used to be really hard for me, so I would minimise my impact as much as possible to avoid upsetting people.  It didn’t feel safe to have others’ disapproval even though I would get a lot of admiration too.

Now, how this links with my money story is that I used to earn quite a bit of money from playing the bagpipes in Southern England.  Bagpipers are rare in the South and people who want a bagpiper for a wedding or New Year’s Eve will pay quite a lot of money.  I also used to get days off school playing on the QE2 cruise ship before it set sail from Southampton and would get some money for doing that, too.

So, that was the background to the unconscious “stuff” going on.  Back to my little victory.  I offered to play the bagpipes at the special needs school I’m working at.  I took them in having done little practice (so knowing they wouldn’t sound as good as I can make them) and played in a music lesson.  Special needs kids don’t do people pleasing – they will give you the reaction straight!  Most of the young people in the class enjoyed or became interested in the bagpipes, but one balled her eyes out!  This was the victory.  For the first time, I really felt it was OK that she didn’t like it.  I didn’t feel guilty that I’d upset her like I would have done before.  It might seem like a small shift and an obvious point for many, but for me it’s the fruit of many years of hard work to change my responses to situations in empowering ways.

I think I just might go ahead and practise more so I can offer my services for weddings and New Year. 🙂

Are you a people-pleaser?  Have you had any consciousness shifting victories lately?  How have you managed to make the shifts?  I’d love to hear!

Inner Peace from Emotional Honesty

2 weeks ago I signed up to an online course in tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique or Meridian Psychotherapy) for financial success and personal fulfilment.  I’ve known about tapping for a couple of years but for some reason it’s really resonating with me now.  I’m feeling so much inner peace after I do the tapping exercises and I feel much calmer inside.  It’s also taught me that despite all the inner work I’ve done to raise my vibration, modern life really is stressful and we need to take time to have a daily stress detox.

If you’re not familiar with tapping, it’s basically a fusion of Eastern Medicine and Western Psychology.  You gently tap on certain acupuncture points on the body which represent each of the meridians where the “chi” or “ki” universal energy flows through.  Plus while tapping on these points, you say out loud the thoughts that are bothering you and express the emotions coming up underneath those thoughts.  Here’s a link to The Tapping Solution website where you can find out more.

I love how the tapping process encourages us to be honest about where we are and how we feel as we tap on those acupuncture points.  I’ve always found the truth to hold a lot of power.  Blocking the truth for any reason causes an enormous amount of internal stress and takes our energy systems out of harmony.  But expressing the truth, no matter how awful it may seem at first, allows energy to flow naturally – particularly when we are emotionally honest with ourselves.  Expressing our truth is incredibly healing and the great thing about using tapping as you express the truth is that the gentle tapping is sending calming signals to the brain as well as encouraging the “chi” or “ki” to flow through the body better.  Thoughts and emotions are also made of universal energy, so they need to be restored to natural flow too.  Once we get back to the natural flow, that seemingly awful truth loses its power and we can relax into life more.

Getting in touch with our emotions is a difficult process because as a society, we don’t know what to do with them.  They’re generally seen as “bad” or “good” and it’s a criticism to be “emotional”.  But at the same time many people have an awareness that Emotional Intelligence is a great skill to have.  Emotional Intelligence basically means being conscious of emotions and bringing them into awareness so that appropriate action can be taken.  I’m a highly emotional person and feel others’ emotions too, so for years I struggled with overwhelm from emotions and the energetic charges they hold.  Energy healing practices have helped a lot and so has journalling (where I write out my thoughts and feelings with complete honesty.)  But over time, I just kept getting overwhelmed by other’s “stuff” during the day.  Tapping doesn’t eliminate this – it’s part of modern life.  But it’s proving to be a powerful tool for letting go of that accumulated “stuff” quickly and effectively so I can get back to the real me.

And life is giving plenty of opportunities to see for myself how emotional honesty promotes better connections.  Privately and professionally, emotionally honest conversations have brought about a much deeper level of connection with others.  At the moment, I’m working in a special needs school a few days a week and am really seeing how giving emotions space to be expressed can help so much with connection, cooperation and give students more space for learning.  When our brains aren’t overwhelmed with trying to deal with emotions,  they can relax into learning, creativity and inspiration – much higher cognitive abilities.

Meditation, mindfulness, journalling, inner child work along with tapping are all ways that we can be more emotionally honest in productive, peace-producing ways.  I do wonder whether we could prevent so many tragedies in this world if we taught everyone how to manage and handle emotions in ways that promote connection, authenticity and harmony.

What’s the Truth of Who You Are?

Last Sunday, I went to “Shift Speaker Training” with Dr Joanna Martin. I’d never heard of her so I had no idea what to expect, but actually I thought she was fantastic. She oozed passion, authenticity and energy.

I left feeling calm and optimistic about my business’s future. I even felt more confident about selling (which is something I need to do a lot of work on!!)

She got us to think about one quality or value that is the essence of who we are. What would we wish for everyone in the world?  I went through a few options and decided on peace.  We then had to go around the room and introduce ourselves as that quality.  It was beautiful to hear other people’s truths – love, value, confidence, service and many more introduced themselves to me.  There was such a gentle, authentic energy flowing during this activity and I think all of us were able to connect heart-to-heart.

Later that day, I reflected more on peace and it didn’t feel 100% me.  It’s definitely something I strive for and it inspires me, but it’s not the depth of who I am.  I realised that truth was the quality that I naturally am.  A lot of people don’t want to know truth – it can be a vulnerable place to go.  But for those brave enough to embrace it, profound healing can come.

The Soul loves the Truth – Denise Linn

What do you feel the key value driving your life is?  Peace? Love? Truth? Something else?

Why not have a go at saying “I am (your value)” out loud and see how it feels?  I would love to hear how you get on!  Either email me at jacquimcginn@icloud.com or you could write a comment below.