The Power Of What You Used To Fear

It’s funny how the things you feared years ago can become an integral part of your life and purpose.  Angels and past lives were 2 such things for me and yet now I’m using them to help people feel much better, heal from the past and resolve burning problems.

Is there something you’ve feared in the past that you do quite happily now?  Or is there something you fear now that could be a skill or valuable insight in the future?  This quote by Marianne Williamson sums up the reason for these kinds of fears:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”  Marianne Williamson

Fear of Seeing Angels

When I was still recovering from my mental breakdown, my mum gave me a book on angels by Diana Cooper.  I loved the idea of them, but the thought of actually seeing one scared the bejesus out of me!  Now, I’m merrily doing Doreen Virtue’s Angel Intuitive course and fully embracing the connection with angels.  Although, I have to admit – I don’t actually “see” angels in the way I feared I might then, it’s more a knowing and a feeling that their energy is around.  And it’s far from scary 🙂

Fear of Seeing Past Lives 

The same was true of hearing about past lives for the first time.  I loved the Celestine Prophecy and bought the experiential guide that goes with it to dive deeper into the ideas in it.  But when I read the follow up book, “The Tenth Insight” and it started talking about past lives … ooh, fear alert…fear alert! AND there was an experiential guide for the Tenth Insight too – I thought “eek… there must be something in this!  Help – my version of reality is crumbling!!!”  Yeah, there was a lot of fear about that but also a lot of curiosity too.

Fast forward a few years and I quite happily took a course of past life regression therapy, did a course in it and do it with clients now too.  I have to admit, my mum was the first person I practiced past life regression hypnotherapy on and it  did freak me out because she became a child describing a lady on a ducking stool.  There was that moment of “oh crap – what if I can’t bring her back and she’s stuck like that?!”  But fortunately the unconscious mind is wiser than our fears.  She came back to normal consciousness with no problems and with a vivid memory of the past life she saw.

Is it all real?  Does is matter?

Past life regression, Angels – these are function of the unconscious mind.  Yes, I do think they are figments of the imagination but I also think they’re functions of the imagination.  Are they real?  Well, they might be, they might not be – it’s a matter of personal belief.  But what I do know is that belief is a powerful thing and using these techniques helps people to feel better and that’s the most important thing.  <3

If you’d like to have a go at connecting with your angels to experience their energy and support for yourself, I’m running a one day workshop on June 24th in Chandlers Ford, Hampshire.  We’ll explore ways to connect and how to receive messages as well as connecting with the Inner Child too.  It’ll be a day of nurture and self-care as you relax into the arms of the angels.  Details are here:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/connect-with-your-angels-and-inner-child-tickets-34596937371

I would absolutely love to welcome you along!

Love Jacqui xxx

 

10 Tips to Heal After Narcissism

To fully regain your power and confidence after the shattering effects of narcissism, I believe you need a holistic approach – mind, body, emotions and spirit working in harmony with each other.   When each of these pieces of your earthly self is supporting the others, you open up space for your heart and soul to infuse your life with love and you can stand in your unique truth.  Ultimately, after all of the lies and distortions of the narcissist, you need to stand in your truth to heal and take your power back.

The Lie of “not good enough”

The chances are that if a narcissist came into your life, you’re a caring, empathic soul who believes a better, fairer world is possible and wants to help people with your knowledge, experience and skills.  Quite probably you lacked confidence and put others’ needs before your own and if you were raised by a narcissist, you probably learned to put your narcissist parent’s needs before your own and regularly feel guilty if you don’t.  During the healing process, it’s vital to look after yourself so that you have the energy and presence to dive deep to heal the wounds of “never good enough” and “my needs don’t matter”.  You are more than good enough and your needs matter and when you truly believe that, you can contribute even more.

So here are 10 tips for taking care of yourself along your healing journey to wholeness:

  1. Remember that Life Loves You.  This is one of Louise Hay’s most famous affirmations and the title of a beautiful book she co-wrote with Dr. Robert Holden.  The “you” that is being loved by life is not your ego or self image, it’s your soul and true self.  Your ego and self image most certainly did not want to experience the devastating effects of a narcissist, but on a soul level you know that you have learned so many valuable lessons that have helped you evolve and grow and break out of the ego’s hold over your life.  Relationships can smash our hearts open like nothing else so that we move out of our heads and into our hearts.  
  2. Cut the energetic ties to the narcissist.  Even when the narcissist is physically distant from you, if they have energy ties to you, they will still be siphoning off your energy leaving you depleted and confused.  When you think about what they did, this will reactivate the wounds and keep the flow of energy to them.  So visualise any hooks, threads or ties being cut and severed.  You may need to consult an energy healer to help with this.
  3. Learn to connect with your heart and gradually let go of your head’s dominance.  In school you were taught to obey rules and not question authority.  You were also taught by example every day that head-based activities have value and heart/right brain activities are frivolous.  That may be true for getting into college or university but it’s most definitely not true for living a fulfilling life and healing from the shattering effects of narcissism.  I have a meditation here to help you do this and it’s the first stage of my programme for healing from Narcissism.
  4. Make self care your top priority.  Get in touch with your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual needs.  Give yourself some quiet space to ask within what those needs are and promise yourself that you will commit to meeting as many as you can.  The more you meet your own needs, the more you teach your mind, emotions, body and spirit that you are true to your word.  And the more you are true to your own word, the more trust you can build in your life.
  5. Make time to rest when you need to.  You’ve been using enormous amounts of energy in your relationship. Your healing journey requires deep work and it’s important to take time to rest and rejuvenate.
  6. Get to know your emotions and what messages they are communicating to you.  In their healthy state, they are just messages to alert you to things you haven’t noticed and help you flow with what’s happening in life.  Old, stuck emotions can affect the natural flow of emotions because we were never taught how to listen to and act on our emotions.  Here are a few examples of emotions in their healthy, flowing states:
    • Healthy anger alerts us the fact that someone else is violating our boundaries and we need to take some action (it needn’t be fiery and strong – it can simply be an assertive “no”).
    • Healthy sadness helps us let go of what’s not serving us anymore.  Tears help us release physically and energetically.
    • Healthy shame alerts us to reflect on our actions because they could be violating someone else’s boundaries.
    • Healthy fear helps us focus on our surroundings and bring our attention to the present moment.
  7. Find a greater meaning for your experience that you can use to contribute to people’s lives.  Humans are meant to help each other and when you can find a higher purpose for your experiences where you inspire and help others, you can handle anything and heal yourself.
  8. Learn about the power of your unconscious beliefs (particularly ones around your worthiness and enoughness) and find ways to change them so they help you live more happily and confidently.  Beliefs influence how you feel about yourself and the moment to moment decisions that you make each day.  ThetaHealing is the main method I use because it gets to very deep-seated beliefs beyond those created in your own lifetime.  Our beliefs are not only influenced by our childhood, but also by our ancestors and the collective unconscious.  Gradually reprogramming your mind with less limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough” and more empowering beliefs like “I’m enough” and “I’m worthy” helps you raise your vibration and make more empowering decisions moment by moment.  It’s these moment by moment decisions that create your whole life experience.
  9. Be truthful with yourself.  Even the ugliest, most painful truth is a firmer foundation than forced positive thinking.  Your body feels the truth and responds to it, so to rebuild the inner trust, you need to be truthful.  Once you’ve been truthful, you can start to look for positives and solutions.  But your solutions and positives will have more impact if they come from the truth first.
  10. Learn to forgive.  No doubt the toughest of all the tips here but the most transformational.  And yet this is what will truly set you free.  True forgiveness happens in the heart and takes time, but it’s the key to shifting from being a victim to taking back your power.  Forgiveness takes you from your head and opens your heart.  

These are my tips from what’s helped my clients and me to get to feeling true, free and empowered after experiencing the shame, self-doubt and fear left from narcissistic and controlling relationships.

If you feel called, I would love to walk with you on your healing journey.  I have created a programme to help you heal and stand in your heart’s truth and power.  My clients who’ve experienced it have called it life changing and transformational.  You can find details of my healing programme here.

May you know your true worth and be guided by your heart.

Jacqui xxx

How Does Money Connect With The Heart?

Money and Healing the Heart
Money and Healing the Heart
What’s on earth has money got to do with the heart?
Surely there’s no heart in money?

 Well, for those of us on the path, our finances are a rich place to explore where we have trapped, unprocessed emotions blocking our natural flow of universal energy (chi/ki/prana).  An important part of spiritual growth and raising our vibration is to open our hearts and heal them so that we can be vessels for unconditional love.  All of those old, unprocessed emotions are like frozen shards of energy that prevent the flow of love and energy in our lives.

Today I’m celebrating some small financial goals.  They are goals that have needed a little attention every week to built up to bigger goals and they’re also goals that have required some heart and soul searching to work on.  The first one is that I’ve finally got my credit card debt from 4 figures to 3 figures.  The other one is that I’ve saved up another £100 to add my emergency fund.

Why are these such emotional goals?

Well because a lot of debt creation and unhealthy spending habits are the result of limiting beliefs and a way of avoiding deeper emotional pain.  Many of us get the message from society that we’re just not enough and if we only had product X or Y or Z, we’d solve our problems and get the love and attention from people that we’re all craving.  The truth is that we don’t need to have or do or be anything to deserve to be loved.  Often our Inner Child is still searching for the unconditional love that our parents couldn’t quite show us.  Even the most well meaning of parents can give us the impression that we’re not quite enough to deserve their full love and attention.  And then our unconscious needs and emotions can be manipulated by those trying to sell their products – and at worst this can create debt as our fragile egos try to draw love to us.

I most certainly created my credit card debt on an ego basis of thinking that there were many things I “needed” to be “enough” in business and to present a certain image that I thought people would want from me.  I do feel some feelings of shame at having created this debt because someone who’s done as much inner work as I have “shouldn’t” have embarrassing debt.  But as I embrace my true path, I see more and more that it’s all about opening the heart as wide as possible and embracing all the rawness and darkness inside so we can heal it and open up to higher and higher levels of love.  My finances might not yet be bringing wealth in terms of money but they are certainly bringing a wealth of healing to my heart, which is bringing  more happiness and joy.

My debt shone a light on areas of my heart and mind that were frozen from past emotions.  My lack of having any savings or an emergency fund were a reflection of my habit of creating excess stress for myself because I somehow decided I didn’t deserve peace and happiness.

My financial freedom mentor has taught me how to get peace of mind from money and get myself out of debt.  As well as opening my heart more, it’s a deep process of creating strong foundations to build huge dreams and visions on.   You can find out more about her and watch an amazing free webinar by her here.

So my financial worries have been a great gift from beyond to open my heart.  If you can relate and are on the path but frustrated with problems that seem to be getting in your way, do contact me for a chat on how I can help you use them to open your heart and connect to your true self more.  I have a very special offer package on for a limited time.

Email jacquimcginn@yahoo.co.uk or call 07794 975304 to find out more and start opening your heart to greater inner peace and joy.

 

Energy Detoxing for Manifesting Your Highest Vision

Many people know about the Law of Attraction and the idea that what’s happening in our lives is a vibrational match to what’s going on in us.  But the difficulty with this is that a lot of our vibration is set by unconscious thinking pattens and old, stuck emotions waiting to be processed.  The great Swiss Psychiatrist and healer of the soul, Carl Gustav Jung said:

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” C.G. Jung

So in terms of the Law of Attraction, if you have a higher vision for your life and it doesn’t seem to be coming about, the chances are that life and your unconscious mind are cooperating to help you bring your unconscious issues into the light.  Once they’re in the light, you have the power to heal and process these issues so that they can stop weighing down your energy and help you vibrate at the level of your vision more and more.

But sometimes this process can feel like you’ve taken a step backwards before you move forwards.  I do warn my clients that even though they may feel great right after a session, they may well then experience emotions like anger or sadness for a short period of time.  It’s like an energy detox.  If you’ve ever tried a detox, you’ll know that as your body processes out the toxins, you can feel a bit off.  But once you’ve let the toxins flow away, your body can balance itself again.  It’s the same with the mind and with your energy.  The trick is to surrender and just let the energy flow.  If you try to resist, you just keep it in place.  If you let it go, it can do its thing and flow on by.

I was reminded of this today because I experienced very high energies last night at a talk that almost completely got rid of the stress and tension that I was holding in my body.  For most of this morning, I continued to feel empowered, free and stress-free but as I continued working, gradually the stress creeped in and then I even started having mild depressive thoughts when I got home.  It was like a longing for that higher vibration and a sadness that I wasn’t already living every day like that.  The main culprit was going on Facebook.  For some reason I was extra sensitive to what people were saying and extra self critical.

Then in a flash I remembered that that lady giving the talk last night said I would experience a lot of detoxing.  And it was like a weight was lifted.  Instead of fighting against the thoughts and emotions, I surrendered to them – knowing that actually it was just old, stuck energy coming into my conscious awareness so they could be acknowledged, processed and released – helping me to get closer and closer to the vibration of my big vision.

And now, I’m feeling more balance.  Someday I do hope to live most of my days at that wonderful high frequency, but for now I’m happy to keep diving deep and letting myself regularly detox.  I’m safe in the knowledge that I’m gradually raising my vibration in a sustainable way.  And safe in the knowledge that I’m practising what I preach to my clients and students.

If you have a sense that you’re moving towards a bigger vision but feel weighed down at the moment, I would love to help you.  Just get in contact using the form below and we can schedule a chat to see if my sessions are the right fit for you now.

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Sharing is Essential #mentalwellbeing

This evening I watched “Life After Suicide” on BBC1.  It was a fascinating and deeply sad documentary on suicide, its effects and its causes.

A lot of my work involves uncovering unhelpful thinking patterns and changing them.  I haven’t seen suicidal clients but this programme said it was a combination of deep despair and a feeling of no way out that would make someone likely to commit suicide.

While I don’t have direct experience of suicide, I have experienced mental health problems and understand the lack of control over your own mind.  In my case, after a period of a lack of sleep I became highly paranoid and believed I’d sold my soul to the devil.  I had shared my heart with someone I loved who was unavailable and distant.  The distance meant that my mind projected all kinds of things onto him and in my unbalanced state, archetypes from the unconscious dominated my thinking.  I saw way too much synchronicity and read far too deeply into the events happening around me.  Eventually, I got to a point of thinking that I had become a channel for evil and that my friends and family would all gradually be killed off.  At the time, my dad actually was suffering from cancer and one of my friends was feeling down and saying he would be better off dead.  I thought I’d caused it all.

I remember vividly standing in the shower in my flat and thinking “I have to kill myself to end this and protect my family.”  But fortunately another part of me recognise that this wasn’t really me.  When I got to work that day, I talked to a colleague who was a good friend and while I didn’t share the depths of what I was thinking, I shared enough for her to help me see my perspective might be wrong.

But the most healing aspect of all for me was talking to my best friend.  She doesn’t realise what a great friend and what a great natural healer she is, but she saved me.  In fact, she was with me at my worst and gently tried to pull me out of my own abyss.  I hadn’t shared the depths of my despair while it was happening, but later I did.  She didn’t once judge me or give me advice.  She just let me speak.  What I always found from being listened to like that, was that as I spoke and explained what was going on, I would be giving myself advice.

How many of us have really experienced that level of deep listening?  How many of us try to jump in with suggestions and advice?  If more of us could learn to hold space for a fellow human in their times of pain without jumping in to “fix” or “advise”, we’d live in a different world.  People in pain would have the sacred space necessary to process their own pain and draw out their natural healing abilities to heal it.  Perhaps we’d have fewer mental health problems.

Personally, after watching the BBC programme,  I’m now even more grateful for the friends I could share with.   They empowered me to draw out my own healing wisdom and set me on a path of empowerment and that’s why I do what I do today.  I got through to the other side.

Freedom and the Inner Child

Last night I gave a talk and mini-workshop on Connecting with the Inner Child at Horndean Positive Living Group.

Connecting with your Inner Child is vital to creating your own version of heaven on Earth.  The Inner Child is the bridge between the ego (our false, small self) and the soul (our true, expansive self).  The Inner Child carries all the qualities that can help bring humanity forward –

  • curiosity
  • wonder
  • emotional expression
  • creativity
  • non-judgment
  • spontaneity
  • being immersed in the moment
  • imagination
  • vision
  • joy
  • vitality

In fact, these are qualities that spiritual development involves.  For example, from a spiritual development perspective, the art of manifesting encourages us to use all of these to turn our highest visions into reality.  We need imagination and vision to aim higher.  We need creativity to make it happen and be adaptable.  We need non-judgment, spontaneity, vitality and joy and to be immersed in the moment in order to detach from the outcome to let universal energies do their job.

But for so many of us, childhood was a time of restricting and shutting down all of these qualities.  It was a survival mechanism to adapt to the environment we were brought up in.  And because our unconscious minds were wide open, all of the learning and adaptation went deep, deep into our psyches.   It no wonder we have expressions like “a leopard can’t change its spots” and we create beliefs that “people don’t change” because the learning is so deeply ingrained that it can seem impossible to change.

However, deep and lasting change IS possible.  Everyone can recover all of these child-like qualities and live their own version of heaven.  But it isn’t an overnight process and it does require commitment to change.  Through deep healing practices like ThetaHealing we can change the deep seated learning and rewire the brain.  In my experience we also then need to process the old emotions that got repressed and blocked to release their energy and restore  our natural, healthy emotional flow.

And once we’ve done that, there is a freedom that comes.  We’re free from the burdens of the past.  We’re free to be joyful, spontaneous and vibrant.  We’re free to live life on our own terms.  We’re free to have fun.  We’re free to live the highest expression of our souls.  We’re free of judgment and restriction.  We’re free to thrive.

That kind of freedom is an expression of love. 

If you’d like to begin or continue your journey of connecting with your Inner Child, I’ll be running workshops in Eastleigh, Hampshire, UK.  The first one  is on 20th March, 2016.  Details are on my events page.

Little Victories for Living Consciously

How much do you live consciously?  Are you aware of what thoughts, emotions and sensations become present as you experience life?  As you may well be aware, the more we can get conscious of our responses, the more control we have over them and the better we can make our lives.  When we see what’s going on, we can notice when things need changing or healing and take action to sort them out.  Likewise, it means we can notice little victories that show our consciousness is shifting for the better.  In this post, I’d like to share with you a little conscious victory I had.

As I posted about previously, I’ve been going deeply into my money story this year to improve my relationship with my finances.  In coaching and healing, you soon learn that nothing is as it seems. Our relationship with our finances is rarely just about money – it’s fascinating what else in our minds is tied up in our money story.

One of my hobbies that I’m just getting back into, is playing the bagpipes. I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with them and it dawned on me that there were crucial insights and lessons related to money and my business.

When I was in primary school (elementary school), I started playing the bagpipes. I’ve had a bit of a love/hate relationship with the bagpipes since that time.  It was all unconscious so I had no idea what emotions were going on.  The biggest problem for me was that I’ve also been a chronic people pleaser for most of my life and the bagpipes are very much an instrument that divides opinion.  Some people absolutely love them and some people absolutely hate them.  As a people pleaser, the latter used to be really hard for me, so I would minimise my impact as much as possible to avoid upsetting people.  It didn’t feel safe to have others’ disapproval even though I would get a lot of admiration too.

Now, how this links with my money story is that I used to earn quite a bit of money from playing the bagpipes in Southern England.  Bagpipers are rare in the South and people who want a bagpiper for a wedding or New Year’s Eve will pay quite a lot of money.  I also used to get days off school playing on the QE2 cruise ship before it set sail from Southampton and would get some money for doing that, too.

So, that was the background to the unconscious “stuff” going on.  Back to my little victory.  I offered to play the bagpipes at the special needs school I’m working at.  I took them in having done little practice (so knowing they wouldn’t sound as good as I can make them) and played in a music lesson.  Special needs kids don’t do people pleasing – they will give you the reaction straight!  Most of the young people in the class enjoyed or became interested in the bagpipes, but one balled her eyes out!  This was the victory.  For the first time, I really felt it was OK that she didn’t like it.  I didn’t feel guilty that I’d upset her like I would have done before.  It might seem like a small shift and an obvious point for many, but for me it’s the fruit of many years of hard work to change my responses to situations in empowering ways.

I think I just might go ahead and practise more so I can offer my services for weddings and New Year. 🙂

Are you a people-pleaser?  Have you had any consciousness shifting victories lately?  How have you managed to make the shifts?  I’d love to hear!

Theta Magic at The Sustainability Centre

Here are some pictures from our ThetaHealing Basic Practitioner training 24th-26th October 2015.  We gathered in a lovely yurt at the Sustainability Centre for 3 days of personal development and healing.

It was my first time teaching this particular course, so a small group was just right for me to get into the swing of it.  Each participant gave everything to the course and they were so impressed at what they could do for each other even by the end of day 1!  We learned how to change limiting beliefs, change the energy of DNA so it will infuse the physical DNA, remove other people’s soul fragments stuck in us as well as talking to guardian angels and learning how to use the ThetaHealing technique for manifesting and giving future readings.

I was so proud of everyone and we will all be gathering soon to practice more and share our insights.  It was great to watch each participant’s confidence grow over the 3 days.

I already have a lot of interest for the next course.  If you’d like to join us and see what’s possible for you, just join my mailing list or fill in the form below.  Also if you have any queries, don’t hesitate to contact me and I’ll do my best to help you.

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Rest In Peace Dr Wayne Dyer

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I’ve been diving into Dr Dyer’s wisdom since his transition at the end of August.  My newsfeed on Facebook was full of his wisdom – beautiful, inspiring quotes and a film of him sharing his wisdom with others (The Shift).

I decided to watch The Shift and what struck me while watching it was just how peaceful and understanding he was.  He understood life’s pressures but also understood and lived greater truths.

It’s my belief that the timing of his passing was no accident.  As many involved in energy healing know, September 2015 is said to be a month of incoming cosmic energies that will enable us to shift our energy to higher states.  And as many energy healers will tell you, these times can be rocky to say the least.  As we shift to higher vibrational states, we need to release the lower states so we can sustain the higher state.  It can cause all kinds of problems – physical symptoms, emotional ups and downs, convulsions, insomnia – the list goes on.  But when we surrender to it, stop fighting and allow the energies to flow through, we can arrive at a greater way of being.  It is like our energy system has been cleaned up and cleared out.

So why is his passing so significant?  Because he is a reminder that the physical world is actually energy and that the more we embrace higher spiritual energies, the more we are allowing love to flow through the whole of our lives.  It also reminds us that all of the physical symptoms and emotional problems are actually problems of the ego (“Edging God Out” to put it in his terms).  The clear-out allows us to release our ego’s grip on our lives and surrender to a greater, more soul-centred way of being.

On top of that, some fascinating insights have come through.  First, Dr Dyer had been diagnosed with leukaemia but he was healed during a healing session with the renowned Brazilian healer, John of God.  Post mortem tests apparently confirmed that he had no trace of leukaemia in his body! Second, according to Reid Tracy, CEO of Hay House, the date he died was personally significant to him.  He had never met his father and it was on August 30th that he visited his father’s grave and then wrote his book “Your Erroneous Zones” in 14 days, which was a book that changed his life.

If I’m honest, I hadn’t explored his work that much while he was alive, but boy is his work resonating with me now!  And his teachings are adding an extra layer of meaning to my own life and to my healing sessions with clients.

You can watch Dr Dyer’s film “My Greatest Teacher” for free until September 14th via Hay House. http://links.hayhouse.mkt5657.com/servlet/MailView?ms=NDk0NzA0NTYS1&r=NTY5ODA0MzU0NDkS1&j=NzYwNDY2ODk3S0&mt=1&rt=0